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Writer's pictureDr. Fardad Fateri

Kindness Versus Weakness

“A Culture of Excellence: The Art, Discipline, and Practice of Breakthrough Leadership” is a book that focuses on the pivotal qualities of leadership needed to foster a positive culture and drive success within your organization. In part 9 of a 10 part radio interview series discussing the book, Dr. Fardad Fateri, distinguishes kindness versus weakness and outlines how to build loyalty within an organization.



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welcome back again this is the inner

voice and I'm doctor Foojan and I'm

delighted to have dr. Fardad Fateri

who's the president and the CEO of

International Education Corporation

which owns and operates accredited

college across colleges across the

United States he is the author of a

culture of excellence the art discipline

and practice of breakthrough leadership

dr. Fateri is a part of a small group

of chief executives in American higher

education today with significant

experience in the imperative but rare

interwoven triad of academic operations

and business verticals with over 25

years of experience in higher education

and graduating from UC Irvine and

Harvard University's dr. Fateri has

served as a professor department chair

Dean regional director college president

division president chief academic

officer for director and presidency of

several medium to large-sized nonprofit

market funded and privately held systems

and we have them with us now welcome dr.

Fateri thank you so much thank you

for the invitation happy to be here

wonderful so you also talk about

kindness versus weakness I know that one

of the beefs that I keep hearing and

with my clients who come in I also do

business coaching in my in my sessions

one of the biggest beef I hear is that I

go to a company put my hundred percent

and give up myself to make sure that I'm

doing everything for them but sometimes

then they take it for granted and they

don't take that my kindness my way of

being my bringing my hundred percent is

a gift that I'm bringing sometimes I'll

do above and beyond what my position in

job description says I go above and

beyond

al or as that is expected of me just to

be my excellent and then they take you

know the other group may be other

employees or even administration and

executives take this as if like oh it's

an opportunity if

they're giving we're just gonna take

what do you say about that

and when you're talking about excellent

you know leadership yeah you know so you

know I I think based on people's you

know we're all I'm sure you agree that

we're all products of our memory reason

and experience and says right whomever

we are today we are this way because of

all of our experiences and memories

we've had and most people are used to

working in organizations and they queit

effectiveness in general I think

organizations have improved a lot

leadership has improved a lot but a lot

of you believe aggressiveness equals top

achievement or somebody that's kind is

also weak so you know in our culture at

IC we we always say that our our

expectation of everybody regardless of

title and position is we expect everyone

to be professional respectful and always

preserve the dignity of others and and

and make sure that that ends and crosses

all departmental boundaries you know

what a lot of people again are not used

to this because it is very easy to get

angry and and raised your voice and get

emotional and sometimes shout at people

and sometimes be rude and disrespectful

you know we don't tolerate that and I

see it and and and with that said one of

the things we always do say is that

people shouldn't mistake kindness with

me weakness just because we are kind and

just because we are respectful and

professional all the time doesn't mean

that we don't have high expectations so

I think that is a part of a culture that

always has to be the

find that unexplained because sometimes

people think just because you're kind

and friendly and professional you may

not have high expectations for superior

performance and sudden high achievement

we tell everybody you know we manage and

lead through recognition and

appreciation and not fear and

intimidation both work you know people

who are fearful and and are intimidated

perform for you but they are the same

people who will never speak up there

will never speak out and the minute they

find another job they will leave you so

to build loyalty

you always have to you know coach in

private and praise in public you know

everybody needs to be coached and but

you don't have to do it in front of

everyone and embarrass your colleague

you can always take them aside and say

you know you did all these things right

but you've got to focus on these one or

two areas of opportunity so again I

think leading in a culture that values

employees and appreciates them on

recognizes them deliberately and

continuously is very difficult because

it takes time and I think in many cases

it takes people out of their elements

because as they may not be used to it

but it is effective because it builds

loyalty because people always want to

work for superiors they want to work for

an organization and that supports them

and and one makes them want to come to

work because nobody we spend more time

at work than we do at home and yes so

it's important then that for people to

go to work being happy and being

satisfied

so when Sunday evening comes they're not

thinking oh my weekend is over I've got

to go to work again and I can't I I

can't stand it you know we want people

who are excited Sunday night and Sunday

evening for Monday to come because it's

a different part of their life it's not

necessarily good

bad it's it's creating harmony between

your personal life and your professional

life as opposed to creating balance

because you know when you're in an

organization with the higher level

positions balance may not exist but you

have to have harmony between what you

have to do personally and professionally

there was a research that came up that

said this was a survey I think that said

that people highest rate of date death

was actually Mondays at 8 o'clock or 9

a.m. in the morning because people just

didn't want to go to work so based on

what you were saying is that least we'll

have good alive and healthy employees

and teams members to work with also to

that they will listen to you but they

won't have to fear you they would

actually respect you and when you work

in an environment that you feel

respected and respect your colleagues

and people you work with you want to go

there you'll be passionate about going

you know people get bored they don't

need to be stimulated they need to feel

productive and they love to go to a work

environment that people are sitting

there together with you know being

loving and kind and and yet very very

productive and get positive messages dr.

Fardad Fateri who has created and

it's an e-book a culture of excellence

the art discipline and the practice of

breakthrough leadership dr. Fateri

where can people we'll get your book

actually the book is also sold in

paperback it is available in digital

format

my co-author James York and I very

excited to have that Amazon is probably

the fastest and most accessible way to

the book


 

About the Author: Fardad Fateri


Dedicated to the advancement of student success, leadership development, and organizational excellence, Dr. Fardad Fateri has devoted his 30-year career to catalyzing innovation and transformation in American higher education.

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